Leah, a client of mine, called me for a phone session because she was menopausal and was having a very hard time losing weight. She had gained twelve pounds and was unhappy about it. She told me

Everything I used to do doesn’t work anymore. I used to be able to cut back on my food for a few days or a week and lose five pounds. Now nothing happens. Even with exercise. I don’t know what to do.

I am not a nutritionist – I am an author and an Inner Bonding® facilitator. However, health and nutrition have been favorite subjects of mine for the last forty-eight years. And I’m also an older woman who encountered the very same problem with weight as Leah.

What Worked for Me

I want to share with you what has worked for me and for many other older women (as well as young women and men) I’ve worked with.

  • The first thing I suggest you do is to go to http://www.metabolictyping.com/ and take the metabolic typing online test. This will let you know whether your body needs a lot of protein and little carbohydrates, lots of carbs and little protein, or whether you are in the middle, needing an equal amount of each.
  • Once you know your metabolic type, then you need to spend a couple of weeks counting calories while eating according to your metabolic type. This will help you to get a clear experience of how much food you actually need. As we age, we need MUCH less food, and this can be challenging. I had to accept that my body needs much less food than before menopause. I don’t know how it works, but I still have tons of energy eating much less food. It took a while to accept this, as I love food, but now it seems normal to eat my new amount of food.
  • The food you eat needs to be nutritionally dense and preferably organic to maintain weight and health. This means lots and lots of vegetables – regardless of your metabolic type. Vegetables are the most nutrient-dense food there is, so to lose or maintain weight, we need lots of veggies. Being a protein type, I don’t do well on a purely vegetarian diet as a carb type can, but I eat tons of raw, cooked, and blended vegetables, i.e. green smoothies made in a Vita-Mix or Blendtec. My green smoothies contain not only lots of leafy green veggies but added green nutrients as well, plus apples. They are powerhouse drinks! I eat grass-finished meats (lower in calories than factory-farmed meats and far more nutrient-dense), organic eggs, raw dairy from our own cow share, organic chickens, sprouted bread, and occasionally other whole grains – all in limited quantities. If you are a carb type, then you can likely do without the meat and eat more whole grains and fruits instead.
  • It is vitally important to stay connected with your feelings and to learn to connect with your personal source of spiritual guidance. If you are accustomed to filling your loneliness and emptiness with food, now is a great time to learn to fill it with love, which comes from your Source. If you have previously not learned how to take loving care of yourself, now is a great time to learn. You will likely not be able to eat less and in a very healthy way if you do not learn how to take full responsibility for your own feelings.
  • Health, rather than weight, needs to be what motivates you. Creating vibrant health is so important as we grow older, at least it is for me. I love being healthy, and I want to live to a healthy old age without a chronic degenerative disease. The only way to do this is to make sure that what goes into your body is nutrient-dense and not loaded with chemicals and that what goes into your mind is loving to you. My rule of thumb regarding what I eat is: if they didn’t eat it two-hundred years ago, I don’t eat it now.
  • And finally, exercise. It is vital to find an exercise that you love to do and do it daily. It can be a fast walk in nature, dancing, or a sport, but you need to be consistent about it.

That’s it! At seventy, I have more energy than I did at twenty, and I got sick far more often at twenty than I do now!

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Dr. Paul is the author/co-author of several best-selling books, including Do I Have To Give Up Me to Be Loved By You?, Inner Bonding, Healing Your Aloneness, The Healing Your Aloneness Workbook, Do I Have To Give Up Me to Be Loved By My Kids?, and Do I Have To Give Up Me To Be Loved By God? Dr. Paul's books have been distributed around the world and have been translated into eleven languages. Margaret holds a Ph.D. in psychology and is a relationship expert, noted public speaker, workshop leader, educator, chaplain, consultant and artist. She has appeared on many radio and TV shows, including The Oprah Winfrey Show. She has successfully worked with thousands of individuals, couples and business relationships and taught classes and seminars since 1967.